Sometimes, in life, we feel as though we’ve fallen down. Something bad or unexpected happens, and knocks us off our feet. When this happens, it’s OK to take time to feel the emotion that comes along with it: disappointment, anger, fear, etc.
It’s even OK to express it verbally, artistically, or through writing, as it can aid in the healing process. It’s sometimes appropriate to stay down for a time to recover from the experience. But, like a small child who falls and cries, we need to learn from the experience and get up and walk again with our new knowledge making us wiser.
When a child falls and hurts himself, it’s human nature to offer compassion, perhaps give them some words of wisdom, and expect them to get up and keep going. This should not change for adults, whether we’re dealing with someone else or our own self. Yelling at, or degrading someone for mistakes is rarely helpful, and more often than not, hurtful. So directing that type of energy toward anyone, including yourself, should not be permitted.
Remember that being down, whether we feel pushed down, slammed down, or simply fell, can initiate a change of direction in our life, possibly even catapulting us forward.
At least one religion has a “God Of Obstacles.” The belief is that this god puts obstacles in our way when we’re on the wrong path, and removes obstacles when we’re on the right path. This is an interesting concept and the words can be changed to suit your own beliefs. The evangelist Joel Osteen stated the same type of thing, but said that your life is supposed to stay within a frame. When things don’t go right, it’s because you’ve bumped into the frame, thus bringing you back to your correct life path.
Whether this resonates with you or not, the fact is that sometimes things don’t go as we expect, and we feel as though we’ve run into a brick wall, or the rug has been pulled out from under us. These times should be looked at as an opportunity to reassess our situation, making us stronger, smarter, and more agile to avoid or better handle other difficult situations. It also gives us reason to appreciate the pleasant moments in life.
Just as it’s OK to feel your emotions when you’re down, it’s OK to feel your emotions when good things happen. In fact, these pleasant feelings should be allowed to be magnified and linger. People don’t spend enough time feeling positive emotions. We spend so much time working and trying to get things done, we don’t take time to really feel happy about our accomplishments and successes.
What if we took time to hear the compliments that are given to us instead of shrugging them off so we don’t appear egotistical, using them as information to keep doing what we were complimented for. What if we honored ourselves, on every birthday, for all that we learned and accomplished over the past year, or past decade. What if we acknowledged finishing a task, allowing ourselves time to feel satisfied with our accomplishment.
Honoring ourselves is important to our health, as it triggers endorphins and boosts the parasympathetic system, ameliorating stress. Of course, we must remember not to be arrogant, which stems from ego and does not give the same benefits. Arrogance is offensive, honoring yourself is healthy.
Next time you feel as though life has knocked you down, or you’ve fallen, notice how you feel, and ask yourself what you’ve learned from the experience. Take time to nurture yourself and get up and continue your journey, wiser than you were before. Honor yourself for what you’ve learned, then take time to celebrate the good things in your life and truly enjoy them. It will boost your spirit, your energy and your health.
It’s even OK to express it verbally, artistically, or through writing, as it can aid in the healing process. It’s sometimes appropriate to stay down for a time to recover from the experience. But, like a small child who falls and cries, we need to learn from the experience and get up and walk again with our new knowledge making us wiser.
When a child falls and hurts himself, it’s human nature to offer compassion, perhaps give them some words of wisdom, and expect them to get up and keep going. This should not change for adults, whether we’re dealing with someone else or our own self. Yelling at, or degrading someone for mistakes is rarely helpful, and more often than not, hurtful. So directing that type of energy toward anyone, including yourself, should not be permitted.
Remember that being down, whether we feel pushed down, slammed down, or simply fell, can initiate a change of direction in our life, possibly even catapulting us forward.
At least one religion has a “God Of Obstacles.” The belief is that this god puts obstacles in our way when we’re on the wrong path, and removes obstacles when we’re on the right path. This is an interesting concept and the words can be changed to suit your own beliefs. The evangelist Joel Osteen stated the same type of thing, but said that your life is supposed to stay within a frame. When things don’t go right, it’s because you’ve bumped into the frame, thus bringing you back to your correct life path.
Whether this resonates with you or not, the fact is that sometimes things don’t go as we expect, and we feel as though we’ve run into a brick wall, or the rug has been pulled out from under us. These times should be looked at as an opportunity to reassess our situation, making us stronger, smarter, and more agile to avoid or better handle other difficult situations. It also gives us reason to appreciate the pleasant moments in life.
Just as it’s OK to feel your emotions when you’re down, it’s OK to feel your emotions when good things happen. In fact, these pleasant feelings should be allowed to be magnified and linger. People don’t spend enough time feeling positive emotions. We spend so much time working and trying to get things done, we don’t take time to really feel happy about our accomplishments and successes.
What if we took time to hear the compliments that are given to us instead of shrugging them off so we don’t appear egotistical, using them as information to keep doing what we were complimented for. What if we honored ourselves, on every birthday, for all that we learned and accomplished over the past year, or past decade. What if we acknowledged finishing a task, allowing ourselves time to feel satisfied with our accomplishment.
Honoring ourselves is important to our health, as it triggers endorphins and boosts the parasympathetic system, ameliorating stress. Of course, we must remember not to be arrogant, which stems from ego and does not give the same benefits. Arrogance is offensive, honoring yourself is healthy.
Next time you feel as though life has knocked you down, or you’ve fallen, notice how you feel, and ask yourself what you’ve learned from the experience. Take time to nurture yourself and get up and continue your journey, wiser than you were before. Honor yourself for what you’ve learned, then take time to celebrate the good things in your life and truly enjoy them. It will boost your spirit, your energy and your health.
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