When she and her fiancee first informed us of their impending marriage, they told us their plan was to get married "on the first sunny day," in front of the courthouse, with only siblings, parents and grandparents in attendance.
Afterwards, they wanted to come back to our house "and hang out." Well, that didn't last long. They soon realized that extended family and friends wanted to witness their wedding, and help them celebrate their union. Suddenly we were planning a full wedding.
As mother-of-the-bride, I decided at the very beginning that I wanted my daughter to feel supported throughout the planning stages. I had heard stories of arguments between brides and their moms, and did not want that to happen in my family. Right from the start, I created my mantra of "Grace and Ease." This was my intention for the preparations for their wedding day.
We had less than five months to plan it, but that was okay. It was going to be simple and small, and we could move through it with grace and ease. Much of it was really fun; looking for a venue, attending a wedding showcase, tasting foods from multiple caterers, dress shopping, the list goes on and on. After a few weeks, I realized things had taken a turn away from simple when my darling little bride-to-be decided she needed things like uplighting in the building for the reception, and special straws with homemade flags on them, for the bar. That was fine. Grace and ease.
When it came to the guest list, there was some serious discussion, but grace and ease was the theme, so it was okay. All was going terrifically, smoothly ... until a bomb hit.
Someone was offended they weren't invited, and was discussing it with others. In the first few moments I heard this, I could feel my heart pounding in my chest. I could feel myself holding my breath.
All sorts of thoughts then rushed through my brain. Ugh! Then I remembered grace and ease. I took a long breath, smoothed out the wrinkles in my face, and came back to my mantra.
My whole body relaxed and I could feel my blood pressure come back to normal. This allowed me to think clearly, figure out the best thing to do, and take care of the situation. Ah, all better ... until the next issue. It's interesting that when something upsetting happens, it starts with a feeling. Feelings come before words. When the words start, they just keep coming. Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, goes the brain. Again, I came back to grace and ease, and again my body and mind calmed.
Things didn't go perfectly at every moment leading up to the wedding, but using the mantra not only helped me, but helped the situation at hand and prevented others from becoming upset. Remembering, and coming back to grace and ease during challenging times, allowed me to enjoy the process, and be a happier person overall.
Fitting in a planning of a wedding, or doing anything extra, on top of an already busy life can be overwhelming. Intention and attitude have a direct effect on how things go, and how you feel. If you'd like something in your life to go more gracefully, more easily, take a moment to consider having grace and ease be your intention and your mantra.
Imagine everything going gracefully and easily for you. Assume it as so. If something happens that makes you feel uncomfortable, stop. Take a long, deep breath, and remember these magical words; grace and ease.
Say them, think them, feel them. Notice what happens to your body when you do this. Notice what happens to your mind when you do this. Know that you just did something healthy for yourself and let that make you feel even better.
As for the wedding, it was beautiful. Everything went perfectly, with grace and ease. My family is now blessed with a wonderful new member.
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